When it comes to men, first impressions are super important. But what are the traits men are really noticing? What do they find most attractive?
We’ve all wondered that and it’s an ancient question. Thankfully, evolutionary psychologists have been studying this question for decades and have come up with some time tested (and scientifically sound) answers.
Here are the top five in order of importance.
Number 5 ~ Playfulness and Sense of Humor
It should come as no surprise that a great sense of humor is high on the list of traits that men say they look for in potential partners. Does that mean that men are only attracted to funny women? Not exactly.
What I find funny (pun intended) is that Men aren’t more attracted to funny women, instead, they are more attracted to women who appreciate their sense of humor. In other words, men want women who are going to laugh at their jokes.
Shocking, I know!
And playfulness? Simply put, you’ve got to be that person that he wants to be with the most. You have be the one to rock his world in a way that no one else can… and leave him wanting more.
Create that dynamic. That feeling that he can’t get anywhere else. Every time he thinks of you, he’s going to be thinking about fun. He going to associate you with fun. And that’s super attractive.
Number 4 ~ Confidence
Confidence in both men and women is very sexy. If you walk into a room like a model walking down a runway. Head up, shoulders back, and swiveling hips, you’ll have every guy staring at you.
That “walk” is just one of the ways women have developed to get and keep a man’s attention. Oh and while your walking that walk.. wear the color red.
Men are more attracted to women who are wearing the color red. It’s possible that the color red may trigger a competitive edge in men
Number 3 ~ Independence
You have your own life. one of the most important things that men find attractive in women is independence. Men are attracted to women who have a life. NOT to women who come off as needy and clingy.
Men have a need to be autonomous. But they also have a need to bond and be interdependent, and there needs to be a good balance between the two.
So make sure you are keeping up with the life you had prior to meeting him. Make and keep plans with your girlfriends and keep your schedule busy.
This goes a long way towards helping him to see you as a high value woman with an exciting life. He is going to want to be a part of that life, and when he isn’t, he’s going to feel that too.
So have your own life, and men will find that independence sexy.
Now the last two are the two most important…
Number 2 ~ Consistency and Loyalty
One of the most important aspects of a healthy and successful romantic relationship is having a strong foundation of honesty and loyalty.
If a man is looking for a life long relationship, he will wants a woman who can see himself growing old with. And that starts with consistency and loyalty.
Think back to a time when you felt really close and connected with your partner.
We all need that deep connection with someone, and those deep and wonderful feelings of intimacy flourish in an atmosphere of safety.
We open up when we feel safe. We take risks when we feel safe.
Create a safe zone for him to be freely expressive– To be himself.
Number 1 ~ HAPPINESS
A happy woman is a sexy woman. Many psychological studies have confirmed the relationship between Happiness and attraction. And simply put, ones level attractiveness is directly related to their expressions of joy and happiness.
Think about how you’ve felt when you were around a person who was genuinely happy. They give off a certain energy — an energy that can’t be faked.
This energy is a result of real happiness and gives a woman the look of being more alive and more in the moment. There’s nothing sexier than a person completely present in the moment.
We know that people want nothing more than to be happy. So, when we see someone who we believe to have already found that happiness, we are magnetically attracted to him or her.
Happy women love themselves for who they are. They don’t feel the need to search for satisfaction within the acceptance of others.
Attractiveness or Sexiness is something much deeper than appearance.
It’s more than bone structure or skin tone or the curves of the body.
It’s a quality of a person that transcends the physical. It’s the magnetic chemistry that is given off by your attitude, your energy and your happiness.